Saturday, April 18, 2009
Substance Abuse A Family Disease - transgenerational problems
Husband: She says I drink too much some time but I grew up in a house where my dad drank all the time and my mother did too until she quit and then they faught about my dad's drinking all the time, and I don't drink anywhere as much as my dad.
Wife: Yeah, Bill still drinks and then he's mean to Helen and I want to go home but by that time John has had too many and he doesn't want to go so we fight. I told him I'm not going over to his parent's house any more and that he needs to talk to them.
Husband: Well, I tell her that it's between her and them, I don't want to be in the middle of it.
Wife: I wish he would be a man. It's his job, not mine. They hate me and say that everything is my fault.
Husband: Yeah, they think she thinks she's too good for us.
Wife: I just don't like the drinking and the meaness, and I don't like the kids seeing it either.
Husband: So, don't go. Just me and the kids will go.
Wife: (To the counselor)See what I mean. I don't know what to do!
Counselor: Please fill in the blank by writing your response under comments.
This is article #4 in a series on Substance Abuse A Family Disease.